3 Proven Steps to Overcoming Anxiety With women

So you think you are shy, huh?

Chances are if this blog appealed to you then you probably consider yourself to be “introverted.”

But do you really know what “introverted” really means?

I’ll give you a hint, it does not mean that you like to sit inside and read books all day.

According to the dictionary, being “introvert” simply means that you are “a person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things.”

In other words, you are just in-your-head a lot. You tend to analyze situations more than necessary. Especially socially.

In this blog, i am going to to take this definition one step further…..You are introverted if your idea of “recharging your batteries” involves being away from others.

Extroverts are different. They gain their energy from being around others. And the idea of being alone just sound boring and tiring.

Hope am making sense?

Here is the truth that nobody will ever really tell you…

Extroversion and introversion are results of how you view yourself. Your Self Image.

They are labels created to classify you as being one thing, and not another.

The truth is that everybody has both introverted and extroverted parts of themselves. Everybody has the capacity to be shy in one situation and outgoing in another.

Think of these as different muscles…the more you socialize, the more social you become. The less you socialize, the less social you become.

For you to change, you have got to practice.

With this understanding, I want you to realize that the problem isn’t that you are “shy” or “introverted”……

The problem is that you have social anxiety and don’t know how to control it.

I am going to give you three practical exercises  in this blog, that you can start using right away…. these exercises do not require having to change who you are. They just involve taking control of your emotions under pressure.

These tips will help put you into an awesome emotional state, whenever you want.

Emotions are contagious, so when you make these habits a part of your life, people will actually be drawn to you. And your social anxiety will rapidly start to disappear.

let’s jump into it….

shy guy fix #1:  knowing your three things

This is the key to improving your self-esteem, and becoming an attractive man all round…Always being aware of 3 things that excite you.

Where your focus goes, your energy goes

So the next time you are in a situation where you catch yourself thinking about how introverted you are, just ask yourself this question…..

“what are three instant ways i can re-frame this to being positive?”

For example, if you are walking home from a really big exam that you think you failed.

Step one is to realize that you are focusing on something negative, and it’s killing your mood.

The second step is to instantly list 3 things that you are thankful for, or excited about in that moment.

For instance, you could choose to be excited that it’s a beautiful day outside, or that you don’t have to worry about that damn test ever again, or even that you now have some free time to hang out with your friends.

Change your focus, change your life

You can apply this to your conversations with women….

If a girl said something that you took negatively, rather than taking it as an insult, instantly choose to re-frame this situation as evidence that she is flirting with you.

Do this by listing off 3 reasons in your own head that she is clearly attracted to you.

Here are three examples of some things you can say to yourself

“Is that really her pick up line?

“If that’s her way of saying she wants to be “bad” with me, i might consider it”

“She’s never going to win me over with an attitude like that”

Trust me, taking action on this one piece of advice won’t be easy at first. Especially if you are really feeling down.

But if you can muster up the willpower to change what you focus on from moment-to-moment, then tip one alone could make all the difference for you…….

I will teach you fix number 2 in my next blog. Until then Get my free ebook 7 Tips to skyrocket your dating game sent to you by just signing up with your email below….

your dating coach

Monye Martins

 

 

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